Freelance writer and poet from London; if you would like to read my poetry, please check out my book, 'Poems on the Page', available from goo.gl/Ta4oAX.
Published October 14th 2015
Find The Perfect Person in Four Minutes
People fall in love in all kinds of ways. Some are lucky enough to have that chance encounter: two people who just happen to be in the same place at the same time, entirely by coincidence. But love does not always fall out of a tree into your lap like that - sometimes you have to climb the tree or go searching in the bushes.
With modern technology, searching for love has never been easier or more convenient. You have the world's population at your fingertips. Of course, meeting people online does have its risks, and you shouldn't just agree to meet up with someone you've been chatting to over the internet for a few weeks. They could be anyone. Even if you go on a dating website, looking for a match, you can't be sure they are who they say they are.
So how can you find a date online safely? Speed dating might just be the answer. A lot of people turn their noses up at this idea, while others have tried and had bad experiences. The key to speed dating is finding the right organisers. That's where Slow Dating steps in. They do speed dating a little differently. They think speed dating should be done slowly.
With a lot of speed dates, you do not have time to have a proper conversation or gauge whether or not you like the person you are talking to. It can feel a bit like your being herded like sheep from one person to another. Slow Dating think they have sussed the perfect timing. Four Minutes. Three minutes is not enough time when you have to move between tables, take notes, try to remember faces, and conversations. Five minutes can start getting awkward if you can tell that you're not really connecting, and makes for an awfully long and exhausting evening. Four minutes is just right.
So what are the other benefits of speed dating with Slow Dating?
1. It's Safer
You are meeting lots of people in a crowded environment, with the organisers watching over proceedings. You might be meeting strangers, but it is in a controlled and protected environment. Slow Dating are specific about their venues, making sure all have well lit parking areas.
2. Everyone is There for the Same Reason
Everyone at the event is there to meet people and find love, so you are no different, and there is no need to feel like the odd one out. On the night of the event, the venue is given exclusive use, so there won't be lots of onlookers.
3. You're Surrounded by People Just Like You
Slow Dating have discovered that most speed daters are young professionals, looking to find others on similar career paths. This immediately gives you something in common and creates a talking part. Slow Dating also provides different events for different age groups, so you won't feel out of place.
4. There's no Chance for Awkward Moments
Four minutes is ample time to get to feel the right or wrong vibes, but not so long that you will begin to feel uncomfortable talking to them, or run out of things to say. Also, once the event is over, you will only be put into contact with mutual matches, so you don't have to put down any offers by someone you didn't think was right for you.
5. It's a Time Saver
One of the reasons why professionals are the main speed dating clients is because their bust work lives don't always allow for the opportunity to go out and meet new people all the time. With Slow Dating you can meet lots of people all at once, and all the organising is done for you.
6. It's Affordable
Tickets to the events are usually between £20 - £25, but there are sometimes discounts given. Not only that, but if you want to bring a friend for moral support, they can come for absolutely free.
Slow Dating is based all over the UK. Here are a few examples of the specially themed events coming up in London: